Last night was massage night again. This is a time we both enjoy, being able to go down to the community center, and spend quality time focusing only on ourselves. I find that we both need this monthly event, because it lets us concentrate on each other, and not be distracted by the small things in life…well unless you very vocal people on the next table over…

We both find that the massage sessions to very relaxing, and a good way to connect with each other, as well as learn by heart every Enya song ever written…in fact, I think that I will forever associate Enya with massage. We also have an advantage going to the sessions as a couple, since we each have an interest in making sure the other person’s needs are met. For example, we both felt sorry for some of the people at the next table, since one person kept leaving the table, and not showing very much interest in the person being massaged. Telling someone who is expecting a massage that they will be right back because they need to “get something for their hair” is not a very erotic thing to do. This person would even stop massaging and proceed to dance to the music… Oh well, I digress.

By spending this time together, it allows us to more fully understand each other. Even though we have been married for nearly eight years, there are still things that we are learning about each other. In fact, E mentioned the other day that before we started going to the massage nights, she had no idea that she liked her forearms massaged.

So, my advice to you, is that if you have a partner or even if you don’t, find you local Sex Positive Community, and attend a massage session if available. I think you will find it an very relaxing and enjoyable way to spend an evening.