E asked me a question the other day that deserves some discussion.  “How does submission make you feel more masculine?”

When she first ask this, my first thoughts went back to my formal anthropological education, and I began to look at the question in terms of reproduction and genetic propagation.  My first thought was that submitting can be seen as a form of protection and support, allowing any children to reach maturity and reproduce themselves.  Thereby being one cultural method of genetic continuation.  Since many of the traits that western culture views as “masculine” are behaviors that have their roots in propagation, I think this argument has some validity.

Another way that submission can make a man feel more masculine, is the amount of braveness and internal strength it takes to fly in the face of expected social norms.  Many submissive men I have talked to, or read read their thoughts, talk about the amount of time it took for them to fully accept their submission.  That it took strength and dedication to overcome years of social conditioning.  As bravery and strength are both traits traditionally associated with masculinity, it is easy to see how this internal fight can be viewed in a positive masculine context.

These are just some thoughts.  I know that there are more arguments to be made, both for and against, but these are the first to come to my mind.

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