March 20, 2008
Wife Led Marriage, Sissification, and Forced Feminization
I have been reading a lot of other Female/Wife Led Marriage (FLM) men’s blogs lately, and observed the large percentage of enforced feminization and sissification in practice.
E and I have talked about this topic, and she has made it clear that this is not what she wants. Now, I will admit, that I do wear panties from time to time, and sometimes she requests that I do. But, this is as far as she wants to go. The has told me that the idea of me forced feminization and sissification is a turn off, because it reinforces the stereotype of the submissive woman.
I will try to explain her meaning. To her, being a woman is a wonderful thing. She is the origin of new life, the provides the resources for that new life to grow, she controls sexual access, she has the well-being of both her, her husband, and her family at heart. She will make decisions to ensure the family’s success and happiness. This makes her strong and able.
In contrast, sissification and forced feminization of men, degrades her, as it implies that the woman is inferior. At a fundamental level, sissification says that for a man to be submissive, he must become a woman. However, this idea of womanhood is exactly opposite of what she is.
Now, it is possible to make the argument that feminization and sissification is a gender role reversal of 1950s U.S. cultural norms. This argument feels better, in the sense that these cultural norms are no longer viewed as valid in post-modern U.S. society, and therefore are not demeaning towards women, since they are no longer expected to comply to those standards.
However, this idea will not work for us, since she views these ideas as wrong to begin with, so any attempt to return them to social norms in any fashion is unacceptable. We also feel that even if you try to only apply these ideas, customs, and behaviors to men, you still can’t escape the deep rooted female bias.
So our FLR is still evolving, and will continue to develop into a unique microcosm of society in which we are both happy, content, and deeply loving of each other.