In my last post I mentioned that E and I are poly.  In case you are wondering, poly is short for polyamorous.  The idea that you can love, have a deep emotional and sexual attachment to more than one person at a time.

Generally, many poly households are more egalitarian in nature than a D/s household.  What is okay for one member is okay for the others, and no one is locked into locked into monogamy if they do not wish it.

However, I have struggled somewhat with this inside of a D/s framework.  Basically, while E is free to have relationships, vanilla or kinky outside of our relationship, do I, as a sub have the same freedom?  So my delema is that while we both associate ourselves as poly, if E says that I am not to have any other relationships, then am I still poly, or am I a cuckolded sub?

Now I am not completely cuckolded.  E has told me it is okay for me to have sex with others if here is no emotional attachment and it is a time time thing, but to me this is too much like swinging, and not in the spirit of poly.  As a result, this is not something I have pursued.

I have not yet found an answer to this, and perhaps it will come with time.